Recent studies indicate that 41% of men experience so-called "postcoital sadness," driven by a combination of brain chemistry and social conditioning, with the latter being treatable.
Recent studies show that approximately 41% of men experience "postcoital sadness," a phenomenon characterized by negative emotions following sexual intercourse despite it being satisfying. This condition, referred to as postcoital dysphoria, suggests a significant emotional drop after the high of sexual arousal and satisfaction. Songs like Nacho Vegas' "La sed mortal" highlight this feeling, noting even dogs exhibit sadness post-ejaculation.
Sexologist Antonio José Sánchez Barbosa from Boston Medical Málaga explains that the emotional turmoil is rooted in a biochemical reaction during sex, where neurotransmitters like dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins increase dramatically. Post-orgasm, however, these feel-good chemicals plummet, leading to a sharp emotional decline, which can result in feelings of sadness or guilt for some men. This sharp contrast in brain chemistry can contribute to a sense of vulnerability and confusion.
While the phenomenon can be distressing, the good news is that social conditioning aspects can be addressed. By understanding and discussing these feelings, men can work towards overcoming the stigma and guilt often associated with vulnerability and emotional expression in sexual contexts. Conversations around postcoital feelings may foster healthier attitudes towards sexuality and emotional well-being, paving the way for better intimacy and personal understanding among partners.
