Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo, a prominent relationship coach and lead pastor of David’s Christian Centre in Nigeria, has ignited a controversy on social media following his call for men to elevate their expectations in romantic relationships. He suggests that men should refrain from marrying women whom they consider financial 'liabilities,' arguing that this trend contributes to decreasing interest in marriage among men. Okonkwo believes that the perception of marriage has shifted to one of obligation rather than partnership, primarily due to financial pressures and expectations.

In a series of posts on his official social media account, Okonkwo emphasized the need for men to establish clear standards regarding financial independence when seeking partners. He criticized the notion that women should rely on marriage as a means of financial support, suggesting that a more accountable approach from women could shift the narrative around marriage from a burdensome obligation to a joyful partnership. He contended that if men were to set expectations for financial equity in relationships, it could encourage more women to strive for economic stability and see marriage as a partnership rather than a conventionally perceived 'poverty alleviation scheme.'

The pastor also commented on the social and religious implications of these dynamics, arguing that the expectations placed upon men by society, which he views as 'unbiblical,' create additional pressure on relationships. His remarks have sparked widespread discussion, reflecting the tension between traditional views on marriage and contemporary economic realities. As the debate unfolds, it raises questions about gender roles, financial responsibility, and the future of marriage in modern society, particularly in Nigeria.